Friday, September 19, 2008

Erythema Toxicum and footprints; soccer

Baby's get baby rash also called baby acne, it just happens. They also (especially postdate babies) get dry peely skin. Poor Jonny has a rousing case of baby rash (erythema toxicum), AND thrush, AND the peely skin, AND goopy eyes (he had bruising around his eyes and nose from his "precipitous" delivery). We went for his two week check up and I commented that I hoped his waranty wasn't up yet cause he looks a little worse for wear.

He is fine though, and doing super. As of Wednesday he was back up to 9 lbs 8oz, not bad considering the previous week he was down to 9.1 and also he's battling thrush.

Thursday was my two week post partum check and he got his footprints on the wall of the birthing center. He was actually born up the hall in L&D but we were birthing center patients for the whole pregnancy so we still are considered a birthing center family.
Soccer is going well also, Jonny has now gone to two practices and his first game. Joy has learned to cheer and say "GO Cheetahs!!" with great vigor. Jessi scored the first goal of the season for her team last week at the game, and Joey is doing excellent with his sportsmanship and attitudes. I have no doubts that he will be ready for the 1-3 league in the spring.
knee shot

Joyana... look at the grin, look at the curls, what a kid
Jessi and baby-bubby
Joyana in front of her footprints. They are to the top right of her head, circled in pink. The walls, floor to ceiling, of the waiting room in the center are covered with the footprints of all 1000+ babies born there.
Nel, my wonderful Midwife, holding Jonny
Hey, why is there another soccer picture stuck here? I don't know. Blogger puts my pictures in whatever order it feels like. anyway, Jessi at practice.

Jonny's rash. most babies get this in individual spots, he got great patches of it. just lucky i guess
Jonny's name on the birth board for september.

Nel and my hands holding Jonny's leg for his footprints
There wasn't room by Joy's prints to put Jonny, so they wrote it underneath. She is just across the doorway from him so they aren't too far apart.


Wednesday, September 10, 2008

a few more pictures

and perhaps a few more details...pictures first, then the gory details for those who are into that.



























At my appointment on Tuesday Sept 2, my MW said that while I had progressed from a 1 to a 2, it was time to set the date for my induction. My 42 week mark was drawing close and honestly, I was done, both physically and emotionally. She said we could do it Thursday or Friday. I initially said Friday to give myself as much time as possible to go into labor on my own, but then I checked the schedule and saw that one of my favorite MWs was on duty on Thursday and I figured as much as I dread an induction, if I have to do it, then I want someone who I absolutely trust and adore. So Thursday was the day. I asked about trying home remedies like Castor oil and she said that was fine to do it on Wednesday (I had already been on all sorts of herbs for general pregnancy health).


So Wednesday I got up and did a castor oil dose at 7 am. nothing. seriously... all the stories of terrible intestinal distress from castor oil and I got nothing. not a tummy ache and certainly not labor. I got frustrated and did it again at 4 pm, and again got nothing. Figured it wasn't going to work and ate dinner etc. Packed for the hospital and then Jeff and I decided to go to Walmart for a few things (we couldn't find the head brace thing for the baby seat). So we went to WalMart about 10 pm and by the time we finished walking the store and were on the way home, I was pretty crampy. I was excited and the cramps eventually worked themselves into contractions. Nothing spectacular, but real contrax. about 1:30 am we decided to call the MW on call and give them a heads up. My other favorite MW was on, and she delivered me last time, with Joyana, so when I said I thought it was real even though there was no pattern, she said that she was at the center anyway and to come on in.


We went in and I was about a 4. Hmm. I was really hoping for more than that, but ok, that meant it was real labor and I was progressing.


The next part was torture... they filled the jacuzzi although I knew I couldn't get in until about 6 to 7 cm. and we waited. and waited and walked, and rested. and by 4 to 4:30 am... all action had ceased. It wasn't false labor, but it wasn't real either.


So, Thursday morning found me already in place for my induction.


The next MW came on shift and we discussed the options. We could break my water or try cytotech. I liked the idea of breaking the water since this could be done there in the birthing center, however, it is also scary because it means that you start the clock. baby must be out 24 hours after the water breaking. On the other hand, cytotech was the "devil I knew" (or thought I knew) since this is what my previous induction with Jessica was, it was AWFUL, but it was over in less than 3 hours. The reality was though that the choice was made for us because none of the OBs were available to come perform the amniotomy (break my water) and the MW couldn't/wouldn't do it since I was not progressed enough and there was danger of cord prolapse.

So, with heaviness, but acceptance, we walked down the hall to the Labor and Delivery department and got settled in there.

The first application of cytotech was amazing in it's uselessness. Of course I had to stay in bed on a monitor for two wonderful hours,but otherwise it was a bust. Once I was allowed up, I tried to walk but it seemed like wasted effort. No progress.

So four hours after the first cytotech, we did it again. Again, nothing but one or two very minor cramps that were probably actually the baby getting mad that I was just laying there.

Compounded with this was the fact that I had been up most of Wednesday night with the "false" labor, and I was STARVING! you can eat in the birthing center but not in the L&D, especially with an induction because they may need to anesthetize you at any time.


We talked with the MW and she said that my option for a natural birth was to break my water, otherwise it was IV pitocin and all that goes with that. So we opted for the amniotomy which was performed about 4:30 pm.

This did start my contractions.

Unfortunately, it also comes with the price that you have to stay flat at first and incline very gradually over the next few hours to make sure that baby doesn't come slamming down too fast and prolapse the cord. Not that this baby had any intention of slamming down too fast.

Finally I was allowed up and about for 40 minutes, then back on the monitor for 20 minutes, each hour.


Problem, every time I sat back in the bed for monitoring, the baby went nuts, heart rate went high, and I couldn't get a good reading. Finally I asked the nurse to just humor me, and let me sit up in a straight chair as I felt that baby disliked me sitting in the soft bed where he got scrunched. I was right and the heartbeat was great if I was sitting very straight. Of course there is no fun like the fun of having a contraction in a straight chair.

The other thing was that baby was fighting back - literally- each contraction. You know how you belly rolls and bumps and gyrates when baby goes square dancing? You know how most babies chill out and settle down at the end before you actually start labor?

Baby Jonny didn't. Baby Jonny thought that each contraction was a personal affront to him. Baby Jonny though that kickboxing was a great way to communicate his displeasure.


My MW and the nurses were a bit taken aback by the activity level of my belly between contractions. This also of course complicated matters by kicking the monitor thingy off of the "sweet spot" during my 20 minutes of monitor time. Eventually the scenario was that the nurse had to sit in front of me and hold the monitor on, tracking baby, to get the heartbeat to register.



How fun. labor sitting up in a straight chair, with the nurse sitting in front me, me trying to hold still so she didn't lose the heartbeat. I guess it's better than laboring in bed (horrors!!) but certainly no picnic!


Finally, and i have no idea what time or how long into labor it was, I sort of lost it. In retrospect, I guess it was transition, or at least I was displaying classic transition behavior, I rang for the nurse, started crying and told her that I needed Nel (the MW). Can I just say how amazing Nel is? She came in right away, we talked, she put me in the shower which helped immensely, and stayed with me the rest of the time.


The shower helped so much and I really felt like I had progressed, alas, when I got out (I had the shower too hot and felt dizzy) I was still only at a 7. At that point I said that I needed more options. I was too tired and hungry, this was taking too long, the contractions were hard, but short and I felt like they weren't accomplishing much, I was having back labor (baby was facing the wrong way-- not breech, but face up instead of face down-- or vice versa, anyway, the wrong way).


My options were at this point to do some IV meds that would let me rest or go the whole way and do an epidural and pitocin.

I cried and said I would take the epidural, that I was too tired and knew I still had to push Montstro baby out. Thankfully, my dear husband was a voice of reason and suggested that we go with an IV and nubain first, just so I could relax. Let me clarify lest someone think he was trying to not let me get what pain relief and rest that I needed, that is not it at all. He has been here with me for 4 births now and he knows that at the end I tend to think I can't go anymore, but really it's almost over. He also knows how committed I was to a natural birth-- and not for some silly reason to brag about, but because I've experienced both medicated and natural birth and my recovery for the natural birth is SO much better. Anyway, since the first step for either the IV and nubain OR the epidural is the same- running an IV for a while, we decided to start the IV , do nubain, and then reassess.


This is where things went really fast, but in slow motion. To do the IV and nubain, they have to do continuous monitoring on the baby, ie, internal lead taped to baby's head. We started the IV and after it was in and taped, I realized that my hand was flexed and I wasn't able to move it freely (this observation is important later). Once the IV was in place, Nel placed the lead. the monitor showed a greatly reduced heartrate, like critically reduced. people started moving quickly, someone paged the OB and as I lay there, I realized that I was about to be wheeled in for an emergency C-section and that I would become one of those horror stories that you hear about the mom not getting her anesthesia because they had to get the baby out NOW. In my weird little stupor, I thought that the adrenaline would get me through the initial cutting since I wanted the baby out NOW if something was wrong, but I hoped that they would get me knocked out in time to miss the sewing up part. Did I mention I was tired and hungry (about 4 hours sleep in the past 36 hours, and about 24 hours since my last meal)? Anyway, again I'm not sure how long it was, only a few minutes I'm sure, but the problem was the lead, not the baby, and all alerts were called off. She placed a new lead and told me, "Uh, Jordana, you are complete."

My reply? "What? Does this mean I don't get to rest??" At which they laughed at me. Somewhere around this time we also noticed that the IV had come out. All that trouble and I didn't even get my good drugs. Grr.

Anyway, when she told me I was complete, I took matters into my own hands and pronounced that I was ready to have the baby and everyone should prepare. I dimly heard her say, "But Jordana..." but I ignored her, got into my preferred position ( kneeling) and proceeded to deliver.

My husband says that I got pretty bossy during this time, telling people where to stand and what to do, but I don't recall any of that so really, there is no point in speculating.

Later Nel told me that what she had started to say, was that I still had a way to go, as the baby was not dropped or engaged and was still at a negative 2 position. However I say that what I didn't know didn't hurt me and I pushed from -2 station to delivery in about 40 minutes or less.

I guess the other funny thing was Nel telling me that she was going to have to dye her hair tomorrow ( referencing the lost heartbeat), and that at delivery they put Jonny on my chest and I made quite a stink about him being purple and to "take him, take him, make him pink, then give him back!" Finally Nel said, "Jordana! he's still attached! he'll be pink in a minute!"

The L&D nurse and the nursery nurse pegged him at 9 1/2 lbs and they were almost right on, he was 9 lbs, 10 oz.


So, yes, NOT the labor and delivery I envisioned, but then again the whole pregnancy was not what I envisioned after the last "perfect" pregnancy, labor, and delivery, either. However, I do think I learned some important things. It ended up not being about me not getting my plan, but realizing that it's all about having someone you totally trust taking care of you. I knew that all the things that Nel did were about my care and the baby's safety and not about her convenience or ease. I definitely felt like we (Jeff and I ) were not just "in the loop" but actually making our own decisions. I felt like I was choosing what to do and not that things were being done to me. I was blessed to have Jeff be in touch enough with what my real choice would be to advocate for me, and of course blessed to have someone I trust utterly to be my care provider.


He is now 11 days old and doing well. He has thrush but is being treated so I'm sure that will be fine soon.


The kids are enthralled with him. Jessi thinks she is little mommy, Joy sings to him, and Joey... my big softy is flat out smitten in LOVE. He just gazes at him with this blissed out look, it's the sweetest thing ever.

Sunday, September 7, 2008

JUST THE FACTS


details to follow


Baby J turned out to be...


Jonathan Michael

born Sept. 4

11:07 pm

9lbs, 10 oz.

22.5 inches

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

progress

I had an appointment today... for the THIRD week in a row, the midwifery center called me to say "don't come" because the MW was laboring someone. I did get to go in this afternoon, but I have to say, I just broke down and cried this morning... WHEN is it going to be my turn??

anyway, I did make slight progress and have the ok to try a castor oil induction tomorrow. I'm excited and hoping and praying that it works. If it doesn't, I am scheduled to go in for a medical induction on Thursday. I don't want that, for many reasons, but I do know that I. am. done.

A little history:
first baby, 42 full weeks, went in for induction, then after being there for two hours, sent home because they needed my room for someone in labor (NOT the same place I birth now!). Went into labor myself, 20+ hours, baby Joey was 9 lbs, 2 oz.
Second baby, 41 weeks and a few days, induced due to low fluid levels, less than three hours from first labor twinge to delivery, but not a fun experience AT ALL. Baby Jessica was 8 lbs, 3 oz.
Third Baby, 39 weeks, 5 days, natural labor and delivery, BEAUTIFUL experience, Baby Joyana was 7 lbs, 7 oz.
Fourth Baby, currently 41 weeks, 3 days, at the ultra sound on Friday they said it was already 9 lbs. We shall see. I don't put a lot of stock in the ultra sound estimates.

by hook or by crook, baby J will be born within the next two days.

I would love any and all prayers that I can have the desire of my heart to go naturally.

Hope to update SOON with news of the birth and pictures and weights and little details like if Baby J is a boy or a girl....

Monday, September 1, 2008

Labor Day Weekend

No. It wasn't a "real" labor day for me. Rotten kid. The baby ticker is correct.

However, I did ask my dear and wonderful husband if we could please just go out and do something since I'm tired to death of sitting around in misery and the kids are just watching way too many movies/ playing too many computer games.
So we did... and a super duper fun day we had!
We started at "big fish store" which the rest of you probably know as Bass Pro Shop. I promise that place is the most fun that can be had for $2.00 if you have little kids. To be accurate, you can have lots of fun for free just looking at the huge fish tank and all the displays, but to truly qualify as a super-duper fun, you do need to spend some quarters on the "shootin' animals" game. I'm sure the US Government didn't intend for me to use my M-16 and marksmanship training in this way, but it DOES come in handy... "Mommy, get the bear!" "Mommy, Get the pig!" "Mommy, make the squirrel spin around!" Done, done, and done.
Thankyouverymuch Uncle Sam.
We also went to McDonald's to play in the play place (and had to make a quick stop at Target to buy socks since they were all wearing crocs with no socks). Then went to World Market which is another totally fun store... and I found a great price on a big basket to hold baby diapers, bye bye cardboard box.
These beautiful water lilies are from the front of the Bass Pro Shop.
Unfortunately (or fortunately....) I did not have firearms handy when we drove up Colonial Parkway and spotted a number of wild turkey. I had to shoot them with the camera, and they were high-tailing it for cover (and I was shooting from the middle seat of the van) so they aren't very clear. Oxen : taken driving down Colonial Parkway right beside Colonial Williamsburg.

Jeff pulled into a little parking spot so I could get out and stretch my legs. The bank down to the water was very steep and I couldn't get close at all, but this bush was literally SWARMING with butterflies. It was SO amazing! I had the camera all the way zoomed but didn't have a tripod, so again, it's not a great shot, but you can see two butterflies.
Once we got up to Jamestown, we took the ferry across the James River over to Surry. We had dinner at The Surry House, and came back on the ferry. The following pictures are from the ferry ride.



Dad and the kids waving from the observation deck. We were on the "Pocahontas"

Me with the BabyJ, Joy, and Jessi.
From the ferry, looking over to the Jamestown Colony site. The obelisk is modern. The brick church is Jamestown Settlement era.
I nearly "got it" from this gull. As I was tracking him right above me to get the shot, it occured to me that I might not be in the very best place. I snapped and jumped and it was just in time--if you know what I mean.

Joy, BabyJ, and I looking off the front of the ferry.

I know this isn't a great picture, but look at Joyana! she is climbing the gate! Silly kid.
Daddy holding Joy to "fly" in the wind.
Look at Joey's pouf! He is such a 50's rockstar (and born on Elvis' birthday, LOL).
On the way back, Joey looking at the sunset.


Daddy and Joyana I love these shots... I think these two are each others' favorite people in the world.















We started

Friday, August 29, 2008

I get a freebie, right?

I figure if I'm THIS pregnant, I get a freebie... a chance to mouth off without having to be careful to be PC about it?

Oh wait, this is my blog, I get to do that anyway.

So... this election... to be frank, I'm not happy with either candidate, I am dismayed with my choices. I was thinking I would be deciding based on who stood closest to my own personal key issues... that doesn't seem like it will work seeing as how I just don't like either one's stance. My latest hope with all the discussion about running mates is that I could choose based on the VP.

So, while I do think that Biden will appeal to those who weren't ready for McCain OR Obama, he doesn't sway my vote. I was REALLY hoping that McCain would choose someone I could really get behind, or at least tolerate.

Not so.

Ok, so the lady may look great for the republican party on paper... but I have a fundamental hang-up with her position on family values.

You know, family values, the watchword and song of the GOP, the reason why they can rally behind pro-life, anti-gay marriage, stiff sentences for drug dealers, etc...

I first heard she was a mother, and in fact one of her children was in the military headed for Iraq. I assumed that meant that her kids were grown, mommy days were over.

Nope. not so.

She has an infant.

A four month old infant.

Yes, I've seen the statement that she made about men being able to fill public office and watch their family grow and how women can do the same. And how her children won't be neglected and how her duties won't get shirked.

Oh How I disagree!

SOME duty WILL be shirked...either her political one or her mothering one.

I spent a horrible 18 months as a working mother. Every day was torture.
Please, understand that I realize not every mother can stay at home full time due to circumstances beyond her control. My own mom was a working mother, she was widow with three kids to support. And she did a bang-up job if I may say so myself. But that is not the issue here.
I was torn daily between my duty as a mom and my duty to the USA (I was active duty military). This was immediately post 9-11 and getting out early was simply out of the question (yes, I did actively look into it). Women are great multi-taskers, of course we are. I can even say that some women can probably do some jobs and do ok at both the job and the mothering. I would still say that it's not ideal, not with an infant. And I would also say that those would be jobs that can afford to be shirked a little if the family needs arise.

VP of the USA is probably not one of those type of part time jobs.

Mrs. Palin HAS a choice, she has a choice between her political career and her infant.

Here's my stance on it... if she's any kind of mother, she will end up being torn between family and political duty. If she's any kind of politician, she will have to choose the political duty "for the greater good" and all that jazz. Which may make her a good political figure, but a poor mother, and thus in my opinion, not someone I want leading me and being held up as a fine example.

To be honest, I haven't even looked closely at her official political views. I just can't get past this whole mother of a young baby thing. How terribly old fashioned of me, I know. And yes, I KNOW that I am blessed beyond measure with my little white-picket-fence life and my husband who amply provides for us. Don't get me wrong... I didn't say that staying home and mothering full-time is easy... merely that it is right; that by having a child, you just created a duty and responsibility for yourself that supercedes all others.

You know what else bothers me? And again, I must admit I haven't had extensive conversations yet about this, but for the most part, the conservatives I've talked to are pretty happy with this choice. I'm a little perturbed about that. Sacrificing the raising of your kids for the good of the party constitutes good family values?

Blech.